As someone who has lost a spouse (Cancer 2019), I needed to go back to the Bible to see all it had to say about being widowed. The Torah acts like the Fathers instructions for those who worship Him and so it's a good idea to start there. When I lost Jaimie, I joined a "Widowed With Young Children" group on facebook and was astounded at all of the interest in mediums and psychics as well as the overwhelming drive to get tattoos and the cutting of the flesh. And with that, it clicked as to why the Torah mentions these practices and commands us to stay away from them. They are harmful and destructive.
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Also, see this post. Why do these things happen?
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